When a Woman Cheats…

…it’s ten times worse than when a man cheats.

A woman knows the face of the man she loves as a sailor knows the open sea. – Honore de Balzac

Woman - Made Her Mind Up

Can a man forgive a woman that cheats on him?

I’d have to say… “yes he could…but I wouldn’t advise it son.”

Why?

Because things will never be the same again.

  • She’ll never love you in the same manner that she loved you before she began casting her eyes elsewhere.
  • She’ll never feel that she has to regain your trust in order for things to “return to the way they were”…
  • She’ll never seek your sincere forgiveness for the betrayal that she’s committed.

She’ll never do these things because once a woman cheats…it means she’s moved on. She’s severed all ties to what was…and she’s now intrigued/captivated with what can be.

This decision however isn’t made lightly – she’d ponder over it for days, weeks, even months. She’d employ the accountant within her and run through every single minute detail of the relationship…explore each murky alleyway…venture down paths, retracing her footsteps looking for any clues…searching for anything and everything that could help her fix what she felt was currently broken…

If having done that, she finds no clause…no loophole…she mentally records her findings in order to find closure, during which time she does one of two things…

  1. She seeks an audience with her man and attempts to tell him…”I think we’ve reached the end of the road here babes, I value our friendship too much to stay with you and not love you as a girlfriend should love a man, maybe we need to take a break….”
  2. She cheats on him.

Now…the cheating wouldn’t happen as spontaneous as her coming to the conclusion that love had run out of their relationship on Wednesday…and by Saturday night she’s in the arms of Leon from Leytonstone…

Spontaneous, no thought, no commitment, no love just lash…movements is predominantly a male trait…NOT a woman’s.

Know that if she did look to lace Leon from Leytonstone…she would have known him weeks…maybe months earlier.


“Wooiii, your figure looks amazing in that dress”

“Girls like you always seem to be taken, I bet you’re with a dude who doesn’t even deserve you”

“Can you cook as good as you look though?”

…are all comments that Leon may have dropped in her ears throughout that period…this coupled with the languid affections of her boyfriend…sowed tiny mustard seeds within her mind’s fertile soil…


We all know what happens when seeds are watered with silent tears and adorned with the warmth of affectionate comments that are shined on them…

New Hope - Something Promising On The Horizon?

…and on that night when she tops up her oyster card at Leytonstone train station…and then waits for the 58…that seed would have graduated…


She Loves Another

On that night that she reminded Leon of his name via a whisper/moan in his ear…

There would be NO thought/feeling of guilt/shame. Why?

Because knowing that things would never be the same with her man…she began planning for her future.

Once a woman falls out of love with a man…you’ll seldom hear these excuses/reasons filter through her lips…

“It was a mistake, I’m sorry.”

“Please forgive me…it was just a one night stand, I don’t love him.”

“It meant nothing, it’s only you I have feelings for.”

There would be no need for her to offer up a lie…If she’s cheated…that love is lost…and no effort of recovery will be made be her to find it…

She’s secretly been seeing it in another for quite some time.

………

On the flipside – When a man cheats…it’s the filthy mindless, spontaneous vagrant within him that commits that act…

The act itself, to him, doesn’t signify that he no longer loves the woman he is currently with (as it does when the woman cheats)…

No matter how much he knows it’d hurt the woman if she ever found out (some argue that that’s why men commit so much time and energy into become a ninja…because of how much it’d hurt the woman she loves if she found out…others argue that if he really did love her…he’d either NOT cheat…or just tell her that he’s got a problem lol…YEAH!!!).

When he says

“It was a mistake, I’m sorry.”

“Please forgive me…it was just a one night stand, I don’t love her.”

“It meant nothing, it’s only you I have feelings for.”

It is possible that he actually means it…at least…that’s what he believes…if he feels any conviction at all…he might have convinced himself that it was his heart that forced that conviction of guilt…if that’s the case, then he might tell that “filthy, mindless, spontaneous vagrant” to…

“Get the f*&% off my street corner”…

It is possible after that, that he may truly come to appreciate who he nearly let slip…

lol - Ok...Sure.

lol - Ok. Sure.


lol.

Yeaaaaaah!!!!!!!

In many cases…what he’s really done whilst she was listening…was to tell him…

“Get the f*&% off my street corner”…

…whilst slipping him a lil pre made picnic basket with food, clothes, enough money for a motel for a month…and a hand written note saying…

“…sorry about the mean things I said earlier…I didn’t really mean it…the wife made me say it…I’mma holla at you in a few weeks time cuzzy.”

Men are terrible at this cheating thing…

So terrible…

But the difference is that when it’s discovered they make the effort to fix things…either due to pride or the realisation that they had something good and it might have been ruined on something that meant NOTHING to them compared to what they have…

Unlike when a woman cheats…

When a woman cheats…

It’s over…Call it…there’s NO going back…

No getting up…

Love’s done.

NB. All women are not like this…there are the exceptions (as always) who cheat for other reasons .

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~ by baybb on January 26, 2010.

6 Responses to “When a Woman Cheats…”

  1. 🙂 I like this, it was insightful, for knowing how men think why women cheat and also why some women also cheat..

    I agree that women don’t just cheat out of irrational urge for sex or affection, but more of a reasoning that there may be no hope for who she currently is with… but I suppose that woman must also have love for the guy for feeling despair in the relationship she is in.. Think about it… if she didn’t love the guy she wouldn’t have thought of things logically about her future with someone else, therefore cheating might have just been her last resort to find that affection she wanted from her partner.. I’m mumbling a bit but I hope you understand where I’m coming from. 🙂 peace and love

  2. Haha this is great Brent, so very very true

  3. Just so u know, u can’t get a 58 bus from leytonstone station. Nice observations tho.

  4. I just watched this video (see below for link) and then stumbled across ur blog…

    You’re right… you really are. (Minus the exceptions of course)

    SIDE NOTE:
    I loved reading your two blog posts… and to be honest, don’t know what to make of the fact that IT seems you’ve stopped writing…

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